“The world accommodates you for fitting in, but only rewards you for standing out.”
― Matshona Dhliwayo
One can easily relate to the beautiful quote by Matshona Dhliwayo.
Most people you talk are not happy with their scenario and would easily spill the beans if probed further.
What makes life so mediocre that the dreams once fantasized are the impossible, now bearing the sign “not happening” anymore.
Something went wrong terribly. You went wrong, and that’s the crux of it. You chose a path for you that was marred by poor decisions. You wanted a life, and that’s what you got. Living someone else’s dream while cribbing for your failure is what marks this life incomplete.
We crave for riches, luxuries, and happiness while we continue living with a crippled approach. Our life is nothing short of a movie nobody wants to pay for a one time watch. Look back and try finding the extraordinary things you did. Any life-changing moment derived out of your madness, any major decision to set things straight, or any risk that shook your soul but you went ahead just because you had faith.
Strictly from the debate view, let’s assume there would be such decisions, were they enough. Are you living an extraordinary life?
Extraordinary for few may be an abundance of money, while some may view happiness and peace as the ultimate goal.
Are you doing what everyone else is doing?
Do you have the same daily grind that you detest?
Daily cribbing for what shit or mess life has become?
If the answer is yes, you have lived an ordinary way. A life that you didn’t want but chose for yourself.
We’ve been taught to accept ordinary as a way of life. We pride ourselves on the jobs we have and the way we live. Brilliant job is done by our education and industrialists around the world to instill this mindset in us. Probably the world’s biggest con if you might.
Growing up we are stuffed with the concept of having enough for survival. Education, television, and media propagate settling rather than striving.
Such is the influence that we become compliant rather than seeking meaning or freedom.
Let’s get into this con of life.
We are conditioned in a way that we blindly follow the instructions, and help someone else achieve their dream, which in turn becomes our dream giving us ultimate satisfaction.
All we can do is think there would be enough money to feed ourselves, a roof over our heads, weekends for partying, and vacations once in a while. This defines us in general.
What did we miss all this while?
Are we at a point of no return?
Since you reached this far, be rest assured that there are more misses than hits.
So, what held us back while we thought of living that dream only to end up at mediocrity.
The Herd Mentality
“Men, it has been well said, think in herds; it will be seen that they go mad in herds, while they only recover their senses slowly, and one by one”- Charles Mackay
Just like sheep following the herd blindly, we humans tend to follow our peer group and base our decisions solely at the discretion of what someone else is doing.
Remember taking that subject you didn’t want to study but eventually did because your friends and peer group did.
You may argue that your life turned out just fine with your decision.
Agreed, it did turn out fine, not extraordinary.
The originality ceased to exist once you made your life out of the decisions others made.
You agreed to live your life how others wanted to live for themselves. Where’s the extra in ordinary now?
You played sports others wanted to. Studied the same subjects as everyone else.
Think and there would be infinite examples where you let yourself down because you followed the crowd blindly. What could have been an extraordinary life is just an ordinary reflection of your decisions now?
The bottom line is to start thinking differently and do things for your love. Identifying with your interests and pursuing them even if it takes extra hours daily. With our regular lives now, it may not be easy but never late to start all over. You can start small and build gradually.
Stop following others and follow your heart. You will look back a few years down the line and regret as you end up in the same shit and mess others find themselves.
Change your mindset and start living, not the one you have been told is great.
No more excuses
“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” —Benjamin Franklin
Probably the biggest deal-breaker and hurdle to the extraordinary.
Just imagine the last time you said “I can’t achieve that because” and follows your excuse.
Making an excuse for why we can’t live an extraordinary life is a recipe for disaster since you would never know what could have transpired out of the sheer faith had you gone all-in.
There would be thousands of excuses for not doing it, but we need only a single reason for doing it.
If your reason and desire are firm enough, you find ways to achieve it.
An infant falls multiple times while learning to walk. Don’t we all learn to walk, better yet run? Yes, for its that desire to be on your foot and explore the world that supersedes the many falls you took.
Understand why you make excuses and correct them for it will define where you land up on your way to an extraordinary life.
Leave your comfort zone.
“Life always begins with one step outside of your comfort zone.”
-Shannon L. Alder
When was the last time you did something new?
Living an extraordinary life means that you’ll probably have to step outside of your comfort zone and do new things.
Many people live inside their comfort zone when they need to explore new avenues now and then for opening opportunities.
Yes, stepping outside of your shell is tough, but what if it gives you completely new insight and changes your perspective?
This will be an empowering exercise opening yourself to new possibilities.
Do something you never did before. Try changing your outlook even if it’s by 1%. A daily change of 1% by doing things that you were once scared is sure to make you a different and better person in few months, the one that is ready to take risks and lead an extraordinary life.
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