Here I strictly restrict myself to sudden feelings that are natural occurrences while we are busy living.
Today’s discussion is centered around the feeling of mixed emotions
There are serious issues such as “Mood Disorders” to be tackled professionally with the help of experts.
Mixed emotions or feelings!
Is this a common occurrence? Yes
So, the question is, why am I happy and sad at the same time?
A happy-sad state is perplexing to even psychologists just like you and me.
From happy to sad music to your mixed mood, things are not gloomy if the below study is anything to go by.
A few days back, I had read an article by Jeff T. Larsen and Peter McGraw on the subject.
Jeff Larsen and Peter McGraw, Department of Psychology, Ohio State University share the same enthusiast as many other experts in the field.
Their study on the subject reveals startling details. As per Larsen and McGraw, the instant answer to this question is a resounding “Yes”, and while our emotional design suggests us either to be happy or sad, there are situations we tend to feel both. Though rare, the experience is real and may not be prolonged. True emotions eventually take over.
The question then is, is this a healthy sign?
The jury is out on the topic while more studies are being done to understand the effects.
What can be safely assumed is the fact that a short burst of mixed emotions is situation-based not suggesting anything untoward.
When does this usually happen?
- Getting promoted to a higher role makes you happy but a silent sadness may creep in owing to the thought of extra work and a change in working ways.
- A better job prospect gives you happiness but moving to a different city for the same makes you sad at the same time.
- Death of an elderly in a family makes you sad but at the same time may provide relief and happiness marking the end of suffering for the departed soul.
- Imagine an accident involving two close people in which one survives and other dies.
- Generally content while worried about your income.
Above are only a few examples that induce happy-sad feelings.
We can safely assume that this is a common scenario and should be taken in stride as we move along.
What to do if this is bothering?
- Try understanding why. Why do you feel this way? Often we leave our emotions unattended only to get haunted later.
- Sadness may be normal and doesn’t indicate any sign of weakness. It’s just a phase from one state to another. An ending may bring sadness, while a new beginning may be exciting and happy.
- Finally, see an expert if the mood swings or disorders are frequent and prolonged.
The important thing here is to assess your emotions and making note of the patterns. Sometimes the answers you want only need you and your undivided attention.
*Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.2001. Vol. SI. No. 4. 684-696
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